To Stop or Continue?
A checklist for when you are unsure whether to report, continue, or withdraw from a legal process. There is no "wrong" decision - only the one that protects you best right now.
Your well-being is more important than the verdict
The legal system is often slow, cold, and can be re-traumatizing. It is okay to decide that your peace of mind is worth more than a potential conviction.
Questions to ask yourself
Safety
Do I feel safe right now? Does continuing the process increase the risk of retaliation or further harm?
Resources
Do I have enough emotional and financial support to handle a process that might last years?
Motivation
Am I doing this for myself, or because I feel pressured by others or "the truth"?
Impact
How does thinking about the next hearing affect my daily life, sleep, and health?
- You feel strong enough to face the perpetrator in a controlled environment.
- You have a solid support network (lawyer, therapist, friends).
- The process itself, regardless of the outcome, feels like reclaiming your power.
- You want to ensure the event is officially documented.
- The process is causing severe mental health decline or physical illness.
- You feel the system is actively working against you or re-traumatizing you.
- You want to focus all your energy on recovery rather than the past.
- You have achieved what you needed (e.g., being heard by one safe person).
It is your choice
Stopping is not "giving up." It is a conscious decision to prioritize your future over a painful past. Continuing is not "revenge." It is a pursuit of justice. Both are valid.