For Parents of LGBT+ Youth
When an LGBT+ child experiences abuse, they often face additional fears about being judged for their identity. Your acceptance is their strongest shield.
Why it's complex
Fear of "Outing"
The child may fear that reporting the abuse will force them to come out to you, the police, or the community before they are ready.
Community Pressure
If the perpetrator is also LGBT+, the child may feel they are "betraying the community" by speaking out.
Internalized Stigma
They may believe they "deserved" it because of their identity or that no one will believe an LGBT+ victim.
Lack of Role Models
They may not know any other LGBT+ people who have survived abuse and gone on to live healthy lives.
Affirming their identity
Your child needs to know that their identity is not the cause of the abuse and that you love them unconditionally.
- Use their names/pronouns: Respecting their identity shows you are on their side.
- Don't blame the "lifestyle": Avoid suggesting that the abuse happened because they are LGBT+ or because of the places they go.
- Find inclusive help: Ensure any therapist or lawyer you hire is explicitly LGBT+ friendly.
- Listen without judgment: Let them explain their world to you without trying to "fix" their identity.
You are their safe harbor
By accepting your child fully, you give them the foundation they need to process their trauma and build a future where they can be their authentic selves.